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I feel like I'm abusing/grooming my son. . . (self.antiwork)

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[–]PreExistingAmbition 266 points267 points  (10 children)

Yes, this, yes!

I am a school counselor and I will 100% tell my own kids to walk away from a homework assignment that stresses them out. The academic support is at their school and will resume when they return in the morning, they get to be a kid at night.

[–]Polymersion 60 points61 points  (3 children)

I'm a college student, and I do something similar.

My classes are all afternoon to evening, so what I do is I show up to campus first thing in the morning and work on homework.

What this allows me to do is after classes in the afternoon, I go home and have personal time to just be human.

[–]_bulletproof_1999 10 points11 points  (2 children)

I always did my homework in class while the teacher was lecturing. They really should cut back on how much is required in the evenings. It’s like being an adult and leaving the office just to go home and work more. No thank you!

[–]Polymersion 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It’s like being an adult and leaving the office just to go home and work more

It's generally believed that this is the idea, to train kids for it.

[–]MazeMousehere for the memes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They really should cut back on how much is required in the evenings

Hated this in the dutch equivalent of high-school.

Every single teacher "It's only 30 minutes"...
No you dickhead. I have 6 classes today and since all of you go "it's only 30 minutes" it's actually 3 fucking hours, on top of having sports and wanting to decompress before going to sleep.

[–]Ohmec 25 points26 points  (3 children)

When I was in school, all of my homework was graded. I routinely failed classes for not completing homework, despite testing very well.

[–]halconpequena[🍰] 14 points15 points  (1 child)

Same, this is what fucked my gpa, even though I aced my tests. I found out as an adult i have adhd. I’m certain I would have thrived if I wasn’t forced to do so much homework. It was so much stuff all the time, and I even fainted once in 12th grade from exhaustion and no one took it seriously. I did my best to hyperfocus the last two years of school and do the homework and I got a 2.98 gpa, even though my tests were awesome, and when I was able to write papers during class they were excellent. I’m still mad about it in hindsight if I think about how no one believed me and thought I was lazy.

[–]KaedeF 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Same! I was “a pleasure to have in class, doesn’t turn in homework” kinda kid. I’d space out all day and then ace any test set in front of me. Disorganized, but always got it done in the nick of time. I wish my Dr took me seriously when I asked if I had ADHD at 15. I got told off as “being too smart, and having too good of grades to have ADHD.” I got diagnosed a few years ago as an adult. Turns out my eternally messy room and forgotten homework were in fact, signs of ADHD.

[–]TheThiefEmpress 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is why I graduated high school a year early. I tested out, because I was an extremely sickly child, who missed one third of school (still am sickly, but an adult now, lol). And had absolutely no hope of being able to make up all the missed work.

Since I was intelligent enough, I studied on my own, and got my high school diploma from the state. Graduated an entire year early, whereas I don't think I would have even been elligible to graduate, had I stayed in school. I had missed too many days to qualify, and had a below 2.0 gpa, even though all my test scores were above 85%. (And that was often with guessing the answers).

[–]splithoofiewoofies 1 point2 points  (1 child)

For the next 5 minutes I am going to daydream you're my mother. I am not even sure if you're a woman, but damnit, I need this.

[–]PreExistingAmbition 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am a mom and I can be your Internet mom! 😊 I actually follow the sub r/momforaminute